What to do when love disappears

What to do when love disappears

You have been sharing your life with another person for a long time, but it is no longer the same, you are no longer in love.

What should you do? Forget about the past and rebuild your life, perhaps, with someone else? Or maybe you want to give the affection you have for that person a chance? In life it is not easy to make decisions, and more so when they represent a turning point in our lives.

Love has become something sweetened; it is so Over the last few decades, mainly through movies coming from Hollywood, we have conceived this term as something that must be lived with extreme passion every day of our lives, and if not, it is not worth continuing. Are we right?

What happens to those couples who have spent years and years sharing their lives?

A priori everything seems really easy; When it seems that you no longer feel those famous butterflies when you see that special someone, “get rid” of it and try to find those feelings elsewhere. But… let’s face it, in real life it’s not as simple as it seems. What happens to those couples who have spent years and years sharing their lives? What about all the things they have built in common? Love is something that disappears, but affection and respect for that person is something that should never be lost, despite the fact that love is something that cannot be generalized and each couple should be analysed in an exhaustive way. But that is not our job.

why does love ends?

What we should give an explanation to is the question that many of you are asking yourselves right now; why does love ends? Without a doubt, something complicated to answer… as we have said, the reasons of each being will be based on their experience.

In an article promoted by the websiteit is explained to us that according to different scientific experts from the University of Western (Ontario, Canada) they carried out an investigation from which they obtained quite interesting results, and perhaps a little predictable; Both men and women commit three errors. Which? The following:


  • Lack of hygiene
  • lack of sense of humor
  • laziness lack of confidence
  • No economic stability
  • bad intimate relationships

It seems that stereotypes can become reality, don’t you think? These may be lawful and respectable reasons, and perhaps some of you feel identified with one of them, but perhaps we forget that the desire to break up can come from something that is part of our own being; That is why we would like to mention Luis de Rivera, a psychiatrist, who in an interview for the newspaper La Vanguardia explained that “ when we fall in love, our body secretes more adrenaline and noradrenaline, hormones that promote the search for physical contact. And that hormonal excess can last two or three years at most .”

When is it time to change partners?

Woman in pink shirtThe question then would be, when that hormone wears off, is it time to change partners? Who knows. The truth is that we are not the ones to start giving opinions about what you should do in your life. It is true that you should never stay by someone’s side for a simple commitment, for a simple routine or for the simple fact that it may cost you a lot to be able to rebuild your life with another person; It is clear that you should think about your happiness and making life more enjoyable and beautiful to live. But there is an element that must be taken into account before making any decision: What happens to the other person?

There are extreme cases in which it is evident that you should get away from the person with whom you were once in love, especially if that person has been able to cause you any unforgivable damage, be it physical and/or emotional, but there are many cases in which simple boredom makes you want to walk away. It is then when you should stop to consider, also, the feelings of the one that you have had until now by your side. Does he feel the same as you? Is it really worth walking away from that person? How will your life be from now on? Many questions and possibly few answers.

On the one hand, it must be taken into account that people, as we get older, change (we see life differently, our tastes vary), and we are less and less willing to put up with things; but on the other hand, you already know that at Zhazz we believe in love for life, and perhaps this does not have to be a passionate and entangled love twenty-four hours a day between the sheets of the bed, perhaps love can be represented , also, accepting the most negative aspects of the other, because our defects are what makes us, then, perfect as we are.

Separating yourself from someone has always been, and will continue to be, a very tricky subject. The pain that is suffered at the moment of fading relationship is something complicated to deal with. Most human beings have lived through this “trance” throughout our lives, and although it is complicated, it is always overcome.

Our goal is not to teach life lessons, far from it, but please be happy. Life is too short not to have a reason to smile every day, even more so if you know that when you get home there will be someone waiting to love you until the end of time.


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